What happy changes happen–in your body and in your understanding of the real source of your pain–when you realize for yourself that the separation, hopelessness, and striving in defensiveness are created the MOMENT you believe your self-worthiness lies in what another is believing about you, and the moment you came to believe that it was your responsibility to change the way they see you. Where have you done to yourself exactly what you thought was being done to you? It’s amazing to know how to use defensiveness as the guide back to the intensity that got in started in childhood, and back to unshakeable peace.
I see anxiety in clients (and myself) dissolve before my eyes every day. The cure for high anxiety is not in mind’s hopeless quest to control outcomes; it is in knowing how to reliably transform fear of our OWN emotional states. In other words, is not the outcome itself we fear, it’s how we will FEEL … Read more